When to go to the sexologist?

Before going to the sexologist in Delhi, many people have spent time asking questions such as: What professional can help me with this sexual problem? Is it time to go to a sexologist? What problems does a sexologist treat? Why do people go to a sexologist?

A sexologist is a professional who has completed MBBS, MD, and who develops tasks related to sex education, sexual information or orientation, sexual dysfunctions, and sexological counseling and/or sex and couples therapy.

Therefore, one of the tasks that sexologists frequently perform is caring for people with sexual and/or relationship difficulties or problems.

What problems does a sexologist treat?

At Dr P K Gupta Sexologist Clinic in Delhi, people with difficulties or problems in their sexuality are cared for, as well as people with doubts or concerns about sexuality, couples or affective relationships.

Therefore, it is common for people to attend the sexology consultation:

• Worried because they feel that their erotic desire is too high or too low.

• Difficulty enjoying or having pleasure in sexual intercourse.

• With relationship or relationship problems (to understand or communicate, or to establish affective relationships and manage them…).

• With pain during intercourse or penetration.

• With doubts or concerns about their identity (how do I define myself: female, male, non-binary person…) or their sexual orientation (who do I like? which people attract me and to what degree?), as well as the management of these aspects in a society that does not quite accept diversity as the richness that it is.

• With concerns about the management of what society considers “masculine” and “feminine”, their assigned roles and roles, and to what extent the person feels they fit (or not) into all of this.

• Concerned that their penis does not become erect, or the erection is lost during sexual encounters (erectile dysfunction, erection problems, “impotence”…)

• Worried that they ejaculate before or after what they want, or what they consider appropriate (sometimes called “premature ejaculation” or “delayed ejaculation”…)

• Difficulty reaching orgasm or enjoying it.

• Concerned because they do not achieve penetration (vaginismus).

• With difficulty managing non-monogamous or non-conventional relationships (polyamory, open relationships, liberal personalities, swinger couples…).

• With difficulty managing monogamous couple relationships (infidelity, jealousy, affective dilemmas, couple crisis…).

• In need of support after a love break or disappointment (love duels, breach of trust in the couple…)

• In need of support to facilitate sexual education in the family (mothers and/or fathers who want to offer their children adequate sexual education and do not know how to do it, mothers and/or fathers of LGTBIQA+ children who want to provide them with the best support, such as mothers or fathers of trans minors…)

• In need of support to manage non-normative erotic desires (“parafilas”, erotic peculiarities…) or non-conventional relationships (liberal people, kink…)

• Worried about feeling sexual, erotic or relational dissatisfaction.

• In need of support in personal and affective crises.

• With couple difficulties (problems with routine, loss of attraction…)

• And with other worries, problems or difficulties (abuse, shyness, difficulty establishing relationships or maintaining them, problems with body image and acceptance, fears…).

As we can see, a wide variety of difficulties (or problems, or concerns) are dealt with in the sexology consultation. Occasionally, and as we have mentioned on other occasions, there is the collaboration of other professionals (urology, gynecology, pelvic floor physiotherapy…).

But it’s not all “sexual problems”

Although it is less frequent, in our work as sexologists we also find that there are people who come to a consultation simply to ask about a matter that they are unaware of, related to sexuality, or to clarify a doubt, or to enrich and improve a sexual life that already exists.

And, of course, and linking to the above, people who are dedicated to sexology also carry out sexual education at all ages, adapted to the people or group in question.

Is it time to go to a sexologist?

In our work as sexologists we have seen that people have traditionally found it difficult to go to a sexologist doctor in Delhi, often thinking about it for a long time before going, or going when the problem was already serious or they had been suffering from it for several years.

But for some time now, we have seen that the situation is changing, people are valuing mental and sexual health more and the taboo that existed in this regard (if a person went to a psychologist or a sexologist, it was very difficult for them to discuss it with their friends or relatives) is disappearing.

Possibly the fact that many people with mental health problems are sharing it on networks (or with their friends) has contributed to the partial disappearance of this taboo. We also see that there is a greater social debate about the mental and psychological health needs of the population, which have also influenced the vision of sexuality problems and the need to receive attention to them.

Hopefully every day it will be easier to go to the sexology consultation, because happiness and sexual health are valued as part of the well-being of the person, because the taboo related to talking about sexuality is eliminated and going to a sex specialist doctor in Delhi if it is normalized you need. Just as some part of our body hurts and we go to the doctor, or our back bothers us and we go to a physiotherapist, and we have no problem commenting on it, or we don’t wait until it’s very bad to seek help.

And of course, hopefully the day will come when the population pressures public administrations to allocate more resources to the much-needed sexual education, which would avoid so many problems and disappointments.

Meanwhile, and returning to the question with which we began this section (“Is it time to go to a sexologist?”), one could answer that if the person feels bad about some aspect related to their sexuality, or does not have erotic satisfaction, or you feel bad about a matter related to your affectivity or relationships, or you have concerns or doubts, or you simply want support to enrich your sexuality and your relationships, indeed, a sexologist in Delhi can be very helpful.